Her Choices

Quiet Echo

She has found the perfect spot , hidden by the wide branches of trees near the river bank . She likes the quiet surrounding of this place . Light wind is blowing, river seems very calm . This place gives her a sense of peace and security . She came here to free herself from the demanding pressure of everyday life .From time to time , She needs to get away from the selfish and materialistic world she lives in , she needs to disconnect herself from the egoistic and self-centered people around her for a while .No,not all the people are like that , she knows some very good and kind people too .Sometimes she just needs time and space to clear her mind and recharge herself for future dealings and pressures of life .

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Castle or Dungeon!

She has a lot on her mind , she is good at hiding her fears . She is quite reserved and secretive. It’s very difficult to know what’s going in her mind .Not many people know her .The persona that people associate with her is not her true self .It’s all an act , deep down she wants to be understood . She foolishly believed ,someone would see through her act but now she knows that that wait will never be over . She must collect the pieces of her hidden-self herself and she needs to draw the courage to demolish the walls she has created around her . Those walls were meant to protect her not to suffocate her . It’s getting darker in there she needs new walls that will give her enough space to live  wholeheartedly .She must revive her identity . She must redesign those walls .She needs a castle not a dungeon.She has learnt her lesson,” To have a reserved personality is not a bad thing as long as you accept yourself fully” . This acceptance will transform her dungeon into a very spacious and secured castle .

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*All the pictures used in this post are taken from Google images.

Choose Your form of Expression Wisely

Some people are good at speaking others are not . It’s a fact .

Have you ever wondered why are fighters  advised to choose their weapon wisely ?

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It’s because weapon itself is useless it’s the ability and skill of fighter to use that weapon that counts . If a fighter does not know how to use a particular weapon he/she might end up hurting himself/herself in the process. Same is the case with expressing yourself . There are different forms of expression and different people have different preferences .

Various form of expressions are :

  1. Speaking
  2. Writing
  3. Painting
  4. Performing
  5. and others

1.Speaking:

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Some people are great speakers . They prefer  speaking over other form of expressions .They know how to face an audience . They feel more energized when they are interacting with an audience . They believe in the power of oral communication. They respond spontaneously .

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2.Writing:

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Some people love to write . They prefer writing over speaking or any other form. They like to isolate themselves from the world and concentrate . They usually prefer quiet environment . They need time to think and transform their ideas into words .

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3.Painting:

Painting is another form of expression . These people like to play with color and different styles . They have the power to capture minute details in their painting . Their paintings speak for themselves .

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4. Performing :

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It may include  dance, music , magic, illusion, mime,  puppetry, circus and other acts . They use their body, voice, gestures or objects to convey artistic expression.

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One person may excel in more than one form of expression .The key is to find the way you feel more comfortable with .Identify your preferred form of expression and polish your talent accordingly .

 

* All the images used in this post are taken from google images .

 

Introverted Leaders: An Ignored Reality

In most of the literature on  leadership , “extraversion” is defined as an important quality of leadership . It makes the introverted students believe that they can NEVER be good leaders. We are taught about the importance of extroverted behavior and charismatic leadership .It  alienates the introverted students from the topic of leadership . As an introvert , I started to belief that I am not good enough for any leadership role . My personality is complete contradiction to that of a leader . I started to doubt myself .

But is it really the case ,can introverts not be good leaders ?

According to Susan Cain , the author of “Quiet:The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking “ ,

“Quiet Leadership is not an oxymoron “.

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Ah ! Imagine my relief . I personally belief that topics like Quiet Leadership and “Introverted Leaders should also be highlighted and included in literature and courses on leadership .

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World has seen great introverted leaders .Some of the  prominent introverted leaders are :

1. Abraham Lincoln

2. Rosa Parks

3.Eleanor Roosevelt

4.Gandhi

Source : ”  16 Outrageously Successful Introverts ”  , By Laura Schocker , The Huffington Post  and Susan Cain’s book “Quiet :The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking “

Information on these topics  will help us understand our nature and abilities better . At least , we will have examples we can understand and relate to .

While searching for more detail on this topic . I come across some great articles and blog  posts .


Suzi McAlpine , Executive Coach , replied to my question :

” I feel very strongly that good leadership does not depend on being introvert or extrovert “

In one of her blog post ” Quiet Leadership ” she wrote :

” If you are a quiet leader , don’t try to change who you are .At the same time, don’t allow your quiet demeanor to become a stumbling block to your success..”

– Suzi McAlpine (theleadersdigest.me)


Another great article was by Pearl J.Alexander , Sr. Director HR, Georgia Tech “ Leveraging Diversity of Temperament : An introverted Leader’s Story ” in which she said :

“As an introverted leader in a people-centric career, I am sometimes misunderstood. I am misunderstood because the introversion is viewed negatively, because I need time alone to reflect or create and because I don’t need a cast of thousands or to be the center of attention to feel powerful, in charge or comfortable with myself.”


I stumble across another great blog on leadership by Dan Rockwell , who is  a great coach , consultant and presenter .

 “One of my fatal leadership blunders was underestimating quiet people.” 

“Never assume quiet is weak and loud is strong.”

– He said in one of his blog posts ” 10 ways to Deal With Quiet People”.

(http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com)


More and more work is being done on this topic but still there is a great gap to fill . There is a great need to discuss these details with students in “Leadership” classes . So that instead of second guessing their abilities , introverted students can learn to accept their gifts and strive for greatness accordingly .

During my search , I have come across some books related to this topic :

1.“The Introverts Guide to Success in Business and Leadership”  –  Lisa Petrilli

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2 . The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength   ,   Written by: Jennifer Kahnweiler

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I will definitely take out some time to read these books .



I would like to thank Susan Cain , Suzi McAlpine, Pearl J.Alexander, Dan Rockwell and Laura Schocker for their wonderful work on “leadership” and” introversion” . Without their great work I would have never been able to write this post .

All the pictures are taken from Google images .

 

 

“Stop Overthinking ” Take it easy ,Its your mind not a pressure cooker :p

“Stop Overthinking ”
Take it easy ,Its your mind not a pressure cooker :p

I have this problem of overthinking and over analyzing any situation . The irony of my life is people call me ‘ calm and quiet ‘ but they don’t know the real ME . Yes , my exterior is that of a calm and ordinary person  . People dont notice me at first .They think me incapable of understanding emotions  but  they do not know that  whenever any topic is discussed or any question is asked  , Istart thinking on it I may look calm from outside but inside my brain , is a war going on . Sometimes I feel like 2 or more people are debating in my mind given counter agruments to one another and trying to reach the best answer or the best solution or  the best statement that should be said in that situation.

people are either shy or introvert ( as most of the introverts and psycologist have proved that shyness and introversion are not the same thing ) , I m both . I am a perfectionalist (who wants to be the best to do the best) by actions and a dreamer( who want to learn from her mistakes) by heart .

I believe the most precious gift of God is people who are around us yet at the same time I do believe that those people can also be the most dangerous ones .

well its kinda wierd …